Cathy Glass

Attitude

I was recently asked by a social worker if I’d have a chat with a relatively new foster carer about the behaviour of the 12-year-old she was fostering. Her main complaint was that the girl had a bad ‘attitude’ and swore. On the scale of things this behaviour didn’t seem too bad to me so I had to think carefully what to say.
By Cathy Glass on July,13th 2016

Sanctions and Rewards

For the third and final part of my blog on managing teen behaviour let’s look at sanctions and rewards. At this age talking to, reasoning with and discussing are paramount ingredients for good parenting. A lot of negative behaviour can be corrected eventually through this medium, particularly if the boundaries and guidelines are already in place.
By Cathy Glass on June,7th 2016

Golden Rules for Teenagers

Following from my last blog about what exactly a teenager is, let’s look at the basic dos and don’ts – the golden rules – for managing pre-teen and early teen behaviour.

By Cathy Glass on May,4th 2016

Adolescents

Recently I was asked to contribute to a workshop on fostering teenagers, of which I’ve had quite a bit of experience. I thought it might be useful to share some of it, especially if you haven’t had much experience of this age group.
By Cathy Glass on April,8th 2016

Hypervigilance

Most of us have looked after a child who is continually on guard and on the look out for danger. Even when you think they are relaxed watching television or reading, they are suddenly out of their chair, eyes wide and on the alert. Sometimes as a result of a slight noise, while at other times you may have heard nothing. They are agitated, may sweat, and their breath comes fast and shallow. If you were to take their pulse it would be racing. This can be as a result of what is known as hypervigilance.
By Cathy Glass on March,7th 2016

Body language

The way we present ourselves to others, through the way we hold and move our bodies, is known as body language and, together with the tone of our voices, gives many signals about who were are and how we expect to be treated. These non-verbal messages are subconsciously picked up and interpreted by the person we are talking to, who then uses them as a base for his or her attitude and behaviour towards us. If we are positive, then our body language gives this off in hundreds of subtle signals that others subconsciously pick up and react to.
By Cathy Glass on February,4th 2016

Thoughts at Christmas Time

December and the build up to Christmas often invites nostalgic recollections which can make us happy and sad at once. My thoughts always go back to the children we’ve looked after over Christmas many of whom had never experienced the joy of Christmas before. But the one that stands out most in my mind is the Christmas we looked after baby Harrison. I’d collected him at a day old from hospital
By Cathy Glass on December,7th 2015